This quiz, based on over 40 years of clinical experience and reviewing research on sex and marriage, can help you assess the sexual side of your relationship. Rather than measuring your adequacy or rating your marriage, use it to scrutinize your love life and decide if you want to change it. Read each question and choose the answer that best fits your experience.
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dtl_sexless_marriage[1] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[1][0] = new Array("How often do you and your partner have sex (on average)?");
dtl_sexless_marriage[1][1] = new Array("Not in the last year ",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[1][2] = new Array("Several times a year
",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[1][3] = new Array("once or twice a month ",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[1][4] = new Array("once or twice a week ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[1][5] = new Array("four or five times a week
",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[2] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[2][0] = new Array("What are the longest periods you have gone without having sex together?");
dtl_sexless_marriage[2][1] = new Array("7 months to a year or more ",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[2][2] = new Array("3-6 months ",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[2][3] = new Array("1-2 months ",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[2][4] = new Array("2-3 weeks ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[2][5] = new Array("A week ",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[3] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[3][0] = new Array("Just how passionate and erotic is your sexual relationship?
");
dtl_sexless_marriage[3][1] = new Array("Sex is non-existent ",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[3][2] = new Array("Sex is passionless, mechanical, and non-erotic ",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[3][3] = new Array("Sex is friendly but predictable and uninspired, lacking in creativity and spontaneity
",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[3][4] = new Array("Sex is pretty steamy ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[3][5] = new Array("If it got any hotter, our bed might catch fire",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[4] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[4][0] = new Array("How much intimacy and emotional connection is present when you have sex?
");
dtl_sexless_marriage[4][1] = new Array("Sex is an intense meeting of our minds and souls, and not just our bodies.
",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[4][2] = new Array("Sex is a little personal, but much of “who I am sexually” never really shows. ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[4][3] = new Array("Sex is mostly on trading orgasms.
",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[4][4] = new Array("There is no joining. I spend most of my time fantasizing about other partners, or thinking about other things.
",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[4][5] = new Array("Sex is non-existent",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[5] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[5][0] = new Array("Do you and your partner structure your relationship to avoid sex and intimacy?");
dtl_sexless_marriage[5][1] = new Array("We go to bed at the same time and use it as a time to connect including sexually. ",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[5][2] = new Array("We go to bed at the same time and connect, but it rarely leads to sex
",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[5][3] = new Array("We go to bed at the same time, but there is no physical or emotional connection between us. ",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[5][4] = new Array("We go to bed at different times to avoid having sex. ",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[5][5] = new Array("We sleep in different bedrooms or live apart much of the time.",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[6] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[6][0] = new Array("How often do you and your partner kiss during sex?");
dtl_sexless_marriage[6][1] = new Array("We kiss multiple times in almost every sexual encounter ",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[6][2] = new Array("We kiss at least once in three quarters of our sexual encounters
",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[6][3] = new Array("We kiss at least once in half of our sexual encounters ",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[6][4] = new Array("We rarely kiss when we have sex ",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[6][5] = new Array("We never have sex",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[7] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[7][0] = new Array("Do you and your partner ever have eyes-open sex? ");
dtl_sexless_marriage[7][1] = new Array("I and/or my partner sometimes have orgasms while looking into each others eyes. ",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[7][2] = new Array("We sometimes make eye-contact during sex. ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[7][3] = new Array("We open our eyes, but never make eye-contact",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[7][4] = new Array("One or both of us keep our eyes closed during sex.",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[7][5] = new Array("We never have sex ",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[8] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[8][0] = new Array("Do you and/or your partner have sexual dysfunctions (problems with lubrication or erections, or orgasms)?
");
dtl_sexless_marriage[8][1] = new Array("Neither of us have difficulty getting aroused or having orgasms.",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[8][2] = new Array("I am (and/or my partner is) slow to arouse, but once we get started, we don’t have any difficulties. ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[8][3] = new Array("One or both of us occasionally have difficulty with arousal and/or orgasms.
",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[8][4] = new Array("One or both of us frequently have difficulty with arousal and/or orgasms. ",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[8][5] = new Array("We never have sex
",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[9] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[9][0] = new Array("Do you or your partner struggle with low desire to have sex (before you start)?");
dtl_sexless_marriage[9][1] = new Array("Almost always ",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[9][2] = new Array("Usually
",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[9][3] = new Array("Sometimes ",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[9][4] = new Array("Rarely
",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[9][5] = new Array("Never
",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage[10] = new Array();
dtl_sexless_marriage[10][0] = new Array("Do you or your partner have problems with lack of desire during sex?");
dtl_sexless_marriage[10][1] = new Array("Almost always",'',1);
dtl_sexless_marriage[10][2] = new Array("Usually ",'',2);
dtl_sexless_marriage[10][3] = new Array("Sometimes
",'',3);
dtl_sexless_marriage[10][4] = new Array("Rarely ",'',4);
dtl_sexless_marriage[10][5] = new Array("Never
",'',5);
dtl_sexless_marriage.profiles = new Array();var i=0;
dtl_sexless_marriage.profiles[i++]= new Array(0,20,"Sex is dead. Unless you’re happy with your life as it is, you need to put serious time and effort into jump-starting the intimate side of your relationship. It’s possible to revive your sexual connection, but you need to do something to “shock” it back to life again. This will take ongoing effort and collaboration with your partner, but take it upon yourself to get things restarted. The rewards are often well worth your time and energy. Couples who gave up on their sexual relationship long ago are able to breathe new life into it. Whatever you do, do it from the best in you, and reach out to the best in your partner.");
dtl_sexless_marriage.profiles[i++]= new Array(21,29,"Sex is comatose and in danger of dying. Sex and intimacy in your relationship are still alive, but just barely. You need to take action before they die altogether. The upside is that sex can often be better than ever. As you get older, you and your partner are capable to deeper intimacy and more erotic sex. Eye-gazing in bed are one way to put this into gear. You and your partner probably aren’t real relaxed when you have sex.");
dtl_sexless_marriage.profiles[i++]= new Array(30,35,"Sex is asleep and needs a wake-up call. You and your partner are still having sex, but it is often superficial and perfunctory. Now is the time to bring your sex vibrantly alive. If things stay as they are, you might continue to have sex-— but you may not care. Rather than buying new lingerie or watching sex films together, try changing your typical sexual routine by revealing a previously hidden sexual side of yourself. Do something that takes some courage and earns your own respect. Amaze yourself, and you could end up with amazing sex! ");
dtl_sexless_marriage.profiles[i++]= new Array(36,42,"Sex is alive and well. A few little things done to enhance things further often bring large rewards. Focus on deepening your emotional connection with your partner while you’re making love. Eyes-open sex can make a difference, especially if you take it all the way to having eyes-open orgasms. When that happens, you won’t be yawning through another ho-hum orgasm on your way to sleep!");
dtl_sexless_marriage.profiles[i++]= new Array(43,50,"You have a robust erotic and passionate sexual relationship. Congratulations, although you probably don’t need any pats on the back from us. Your relationship, itself, is the best reinforcement for keeping it in high gear. But don’t get complacent and don’t take things for granted. You need to keep growing to keep sex and intimacy alive in long-term relationships. ");
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