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Is your guy a doer, a rock, a thrill chaser or a sweetheart? And is he the right type of guy for you?

Cosmopolitan magazine talked to some of the top therapists in the biz to put together this quick guide to understanding the man in your life and figuring out whether he's your soulmate.

Click on the categories on the left to learn more about your man.


Video: Kate White of Cosmopolitan magazine and psychologist Dale Atkins discuss the four different types of guys and what these categories mean to you
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Wondering what constitutes a doer? Just look to Matthew McConaughey's character in \"How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.\""; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","Typical interests","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
Sports (playing and watching), barbecuing, building things"; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","When he's stressed...","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
He dives in and deals with the cause, whether it means extra hours at work or a showdown."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He lights up if you say","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
\"Is there anything you can't make happen?\""; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He's right for you if:","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "

  • You want your boyfriend to be the classic male archetype -- a protective, take-charge dude who doesn't yap about his feelings but lets his guard down when alone with you.

  • You're turned on by grand gestures, like spontaneous PDAs, and manly deeds like changing your car's oil.

  • You deal with problems directly without any passive-aggressive BS. He's quick to confront conflict. If you are too, your issues will disappear once you hash them out.

    • "; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","His favorite dates","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    His heart beats faster (figuratively and literally) when he's active, so suggest a hike in the woods or a boxing class followed by drinks."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","His relationship requirements","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    This on-the-go guy needs solo time to recharge and will feel smothered if you are clingy. You'll need a thick skin, because he doesn't sugarcoat things...ever."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","In the sack","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    For the charge-hard man, getting busy is a release valve. Greet him at the door in racy getup, and ravage him with kisses. He'll carry you to the bed for some nooky."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","What he seeks in a soul mate","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    His he-man side needs you to appreciate his efforts to lead. But under his strong, silent exterior, he's a super loyal softie. He feels complete when you can talk about the feelings that he internalizes."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","The rock","","http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/msnbc/Components/Photos/070815/070815_quaid_vmed_2p.vmedium.jpg","","", "sub", "", "", "", "", "", "", "275", "198", "#000000", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    Denis Quaid was the rock of his family in \"In Good Company.\""; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","Typical interests","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    Organized groups (like a running club), gadgets, nonfiction books"; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","When he's stressed...","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    He analyzes the situation and makes lists and plans."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He lights up if you say","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    \"I could really use your advice on something.\""; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He's right for you if:","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
  • You want your boyfriend to be a supportive, steadfast partner who shares your sensible approach to life and is smart enough to get your sometimes quirky side without judging.

  • You're turned on by witty, intelligent conversation and gifts that show the affection he's not so great at verbalizing.

  • You deal with problems by talking about them rationally. This guy's always game for reasoned debates, but dramaqueens will lose big-emotional outbursts freak him out.

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    He feels most energized when he's engaging his mind, so try watching a documentary, seeing an interesting exhibit, or taking a class, such as sushi making.
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    This dedicated dude gets totally absorbed in his interests. If you don't even ask about them (\"How was shark week?\"), he'll feel like you don't get him. He's also tuned in to etiquette, so gaffes (like bailing on plans) turn him off.
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    He's normally the calm, collected one. Blindfold him and tease him with different touches so he learns how hot it can be to give up control.
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    To really trust you, he has to know that you respect his cerebral nature. Help coax out his playful side with plans he'd never make on his own and he'll see you as the total package."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","The thrill seeker","","http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/msnbc/Components/Photos/070815/070815_wilson_vmed_2p.hmedium.jpg","","", "sub", "", "", "", "", "", "", "273", "184", "#000000", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    Owen Wilson's character in \"The Wedding Crashers\" was a total thrill seeker."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","Typical interests","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    Outdoor activities (like camping and skiing), foreign travel, parties and crowds"; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","When he's stressed...","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    He distracts himself with something amusing, like watching the game or organizing a social outing."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He lights up if you say","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    \"Oh, you have a fascinating story about that-c'mon, tell everyone.\""; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He's right for you if:","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "

  • You want your boyfriend to be a whirlwind of personality who can liven things up, make you laugh, get you out of your head, and keep you guessing...in a good way.

  • You're turned on by unpredictable, exciting plans.

  • You deal with problems in a casual, nonconfrontational way. Mr. Conflict Avoidance hates when you're unhappy with him and will deflect attention unless you tackle the issue.

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    This class clown loves being around new people-think karaoke night or a charity casino event. He's also thrilled by new accomplishments, like scaling a rock wall at the gym.
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    He needs a laissez-faire chick who won't try to rein in his inner wild child. He is willing to share the spotlight, just not all of it.
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    His spontaneous style extends to his sex life. Prove you value excitement too by waking him up for a middle-of-the-night sack session.
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    The ultimate people person bonds best with an ever-evolving woman who can match his lust for new experiences. He craves independence yet still needs to know he's important to you, so being secure enough to show you care is a must.
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    Ryan Gosling played the typical sweetheart in \"The Notebook.\""; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","Typical interests","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    Music, cooking dinner for friends, reading literature"; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","When he's stressed...","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    He talks about it with confidants until he finds a solution."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","He's right for you if:","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
  • You want your boyfriend to be a guy who truly listens, understands your girlie side, and can talk about feelings.

  • You're turned on by sweet, movie-worthy romance, like slow kisses and crazy-great compliments.

  • You deal with problems by honestly addressing them and taking emotions into consideration. He's a philosopher at heart, and even if you two don't agree in the end, you'll learn tons about each other during your in-depth discussions.

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    Atmosphere matters to this sensualist, so find a spot with a romantic vibe (try a botanical garden or outdoor jazz concert) for the real highlight: your everintensifying one-on-one bond."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","His relationship requirements","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    This nurturer tries to know everyone he meets on a deeper level...which can be rough if you're the jealous type. Also, he's so into connecting that he'll feel dissed if you don't share your problems.
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    The closer he feels to you, the hotter it gets him. For an especially intimate treat, seduce him in the morning,when sunlight offers him a full view of you, and make eye contact mid-act."; TDY_WhatKindofMan[i++] = new Array("","What he seeks in a soul mate","","","","", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", "", ""); TDY_WhatKindofMan[i-1].body = "
    This idealist falls when he knows you value communication too. Because he tends to ruminate, you'll enhance his life by being decisive yourself.
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